Thank you for sharing your thoughts. The truth is, comfortable is not equivalent to happy. As a matter of fact, there are plenty of people out there who would be considered successful and wealthy by conventional standards but who are deeply miserable behind this facade. My mother was actually one of those people, and so was I, for a while. Do parents want the best for their children? I'm sure most do. But they should not impose their beliefs on their children, but rather allow them to make their own choices and deal with the consequences of those choices, positive or negative. Children are capable of equipping themselves with what they need to succeed - your job as a parent is to leave them alone and allow them to explore who they really are. When this doesn't happen, you end up with a generation of frustrated young people who don't like what they do, but don't know what they want, who are unable to make their own decisions and whose self-worth depends on opinions of others. What a lot of parents fail to realize is that your child is not your trophy, you can't treat them as your accomplishment. Healthy parenting is ego-free. I get your survival of the fittest argument, but personally, I think that, unlike animals, in human society, we live for more than just biologically programmed goals. I also wrote a piece recently, which you may find relevant to this discussion: https://medium.com/be-unique/12-things-you-do-that-make-your-kids-want-to-never-speak-with-you-again-7d5a50c1b42b

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