Parents and Children: A History of Your Psychological Birth
And it’s time you finally grow up
How do we become who we are? What shapes our characters, personalities, interests, and opinions? What determines our fears and insecurities? What are the voices that we hear in our heads that criticize or praise, encourage or scold, accept or reject, console or dismiss?
It’s obviously very complicated, but a huge part of who we are and the way we live is determined by our family of origin, and the voices in our heads are those of our parents. The way we were raised shaped our behavior as adults and you can see it today in how unsure (or emboldened) you are when it’s time to ask for a raise at work, and how secure (or avoidant/anxious) your attachment is in relationships. It was imprinted in your brain in the form of specific neurological patterns that fire up to compel you to act a certain way in familiar situations.
And you can thank your parents for it.
A Human is Born
Human birth occurs in two stages. The first one is straightforward: it’s your physical birth and it happens on your birthday. The second one is your psychological birth, a long and complex process that is strongly dependent on your parents. You arrive into the physical world and you are a blank sheet of paper…
